Hey Melon! Glad to hear we are cut from a similar cloth. I've owned 2 E46's (first a 328i, now the 330i ZHP) and 1 E90 335i M-sport (auto, unfortunately). I really do love the F87 M2. It's looks are the main thing pulling me towards it vs. a CT4 Blackwing. But, I'm pretty concerned about road noise and long distance driving comfort on the M2. I have somewhat sensitive ears, or perhaps more accurately I'm just not very willing to put up with a lot of road noise or exhaust drone on my 1.25hr mostly-freeway commutes to and from work, 4x per week. My E90 335i was wonderful for this - it was a great quiet cruiser. But I got bored stiff of the automatic. So then I got the ZHP, which in my opinion is great for wind noise, just fine for road noise (after putting on Continental DWS06+ tires), and merely OK for exhaust drone. That ZHP exhaust is a little droney on the freeway. I also wouldn't mind it being a touch softer (mine is on Koni Yellows and stock springs/sways).
All that is to say: I'm scared that the F87 "OG" M2 would be a big step in the louder/stiffer direction vs. my ZHP. I've read disabling the Active Sound Control goes a long way towards quieting the exhaust. I've read/watched good reports of swapping the stock rock-hard springs to Dinan height-adjustable springs (which are actually softer). I've combed threads of people adding sound deadening materials from the M235i onto the M2, which BMW deleted to save a few pounds that I'd gladly trade back. But the mere fact that I've had to research these kinds of fixes and workarounds is worrying to me. I'm worried that I would never have as comfortable/quiet of a cruise in the M2 as I could in the Blackwing, by a wide margin. If you have much experience in the M2, I'm curious to hear your thoughts on this. This is probably the main reason I am leaning more towards a Blackwing than the F87 M2. The M2 seems like it will be stiff and loud all the time. The Blackwing seems like it can be a cruiser when I want and a banshee when I want, thanks to the active suspension and overall better soundproofing (??).
Here's my take on all the modern BMWs I drove, in the order I drove them.
F80 M3 Comp: I drove a pristine low-mileage example and mostly liked it, except for the pretty-bad road noise (20" wheels) and rock-hard seat bottoms. This was the first of the modern BMWs I drove, so I didn't have a great frame of reference actually.
F87 M2 Comp: Didn't care for the seats, didn't love the very-boosty-feeling S55 engine, and felt like if I was gonna get this I would rather just get the M3 to have some extra space with basically the same powertrain. And M3s are about the same price or cheaper.
G87 M2: Great cruiser, comfortable and quiet, hated the dash, steering fast but boring, car overall fast as hell but a little boring. Would be a safe choice for a helluva freeway cruiser that could also have "some" fun.
G80 M3: Very impressed actually. Everything good about the G87 with two more doors and better looks, as long as its a dark-ish color IMO. The beaver teeth don't bother me in a medium/dark gray/silver. This is the ultimate "safe" choice for a dual-duty car that I want. But holy shit the piped in engine noise is absolutely awful.
F82 M4: Drove a 60kmi example and HATED it. Felt completely discoherent, suspension was stiff as a board, didn't want to turn, boosty engine, meh typical BMW transmission. This was RIGHT after getting out of the blackwing.
F87 "OG" M2: Thank god, there's actually a BMW I still like. Loved the engine, loved the sound, transmission acceptable in typical boring BMW fashion, clutch good, steering better than the G's, and holy shit it looks so good. Loved the seats. So much better than the F80 or F80 comp or F87 comp seats. I don't know why it's even a debate. Just worried about commuter livability as described above.