He was 17 and I was the one punished. I had drive/pick up from school, weekend practices, and 2 hours early on game day. My wife and he decided that it was better than a 12-month suspension with privileges.
The worst part is that the idiot got a warning a month earlier. The cop called me from the scene and said "I was going 100 and he was pulling away from me." Now we monitor his Life360 (he used to disable it) and any thing 7 over; he loses his car for a week.
When our youngest was 17, he got a ticket for littering or something stupid like that... because after he got pulled over, he tossed his cigarette out the window. Afraid of getting caught for underage smoking, I guess.
The big dummy should have just paid the ticket and moved on, but no, he had to tell Mom, so we had to punish him (I was livid about the smoking because I suspected him of it and he lied LIED
LIED to me, to my face, that he was not smoking) and Mom was adamant that we not take away the car, as that just punished her, not him.
So we took away his phone for a day. One day. You thought the world had ended! OMG. That's how you get kids these days... LOL
Well just spend spend then declare bankruptcy multiple times, just like you know who. Or just don’t pay your bills and tell people I’ll put litigate you.
OK, so I certainly do not condone this and I know that
we all pay for this behavior and I hate that, but it reminds me of a story. It's a true story. Promise.
A masseuse that I went to was telling me about how the Sheriff came to visit the night before, to serve her husband/boyfriend/life partner. Turns out that he had a credit card, and he asked to her call and change the billing address, since she was a co-borrower. The bank said no, the cardholder had to make the request, not her. So he just got uppity and said "fine then, if I don't get the bill, I don't pay it". So he didn't pay it and eventually it ran up to the limit and so they took him to court. He agreed to settle on something like 10% of the balance. She said he knew that would work, because he'd done it before. The bank (different bank I presume) had pissed him off, so he purposely ran it up to the limit and didn't pay, waited for the court summons, and settled for a lower amount.
I used to work at a bank, I know how bad actors can easily slip through the system. Heck, it happens at the insurance company I'm at now. There's a reason we have a special unit that does nothing but investigate fraud. And another unit that does nothing but litigation. And of course, all of those costs are passed on to us, the good people.
Grrrr.
